Hi, I’m Renee, and I’m an alcoholic.
Making amends was the Step I feared most. Saying sorry is one thing—but facing someone I hurt and taking full responsibility? That scared me.
One of the amends I had to make was to my sister. We hadn’t spoken in years. I’d lied, stolen, and broken her trust over and over. I was sure she wanted nothing to do with me.
But when I sat down with her—sober, honest, and willing—something shifted. I didn’t go in expecting forgiveness. I went in to clean up my side of the street.
And she cried. And I cried. And a relationship began to heal.
That’s what amends do. They don’t fix everything overnight—but they open the door to freedom. I changed that day. I grew up a little. I became accountable.
If you’re afraid of Step Nine, I get it. But on the other side of fear is peace.
Thanks for letting me share.
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